The conversations start with excitement as we have so much catching up to do. After the initial furore things cool down once we discover that we are not the same people any more, the ones who bunked classes together, had beers and danced like maniacs to the beat of Hindi movie songs, gave a shoulder to cry to broken hearted classmates as they sighed and yearned for the attractive girls of the class.
All of us have changed, we have families, jobs and responsibilities. We are no longer the carefree people who thought that the world lay at our feet and we could conquer it all. The bond with classmates though not broken is not what it was earlier, it has weathered as time has elapsed.
There are some people who still have not realized this and they come barrelling with their questions and their judgemental statements which never fail to royally P*** me off. A couple of conversations with some such specimens and all could say was WTF?
A classmate from MBA days was on chat a few days back and here is how the conversation was, remember I have not met or spoken to this guy in 13 years and we were not particularly close in college.
CM: how u been? long time...huh?
LP: am fine, yep, a long time...
CM: Do you have a webcam?
LP: Nope, why?
CM: Want to see how you look...
LP: Lots of snaps on FB, go check them out, I still look the same...
CM: OK, married?
LP: Yes, happily, 10 years now...
LP: No kids.
CM:What are you waiting for....?
LP: What do you mean??? (This was just wtf....did I ask you why you have kids ?)
After this he just stopped chatting abruptly...thank god else he would have hell to pay from me.
Another conversation was with a junior from college. We were good friends in college and have kept in touch on and off over years. As I said earlier, judgemental sentences from anyone, be it relatives or friends have a weird effect on me... I become angry and can become quite rude and abrupt...
LP: hey, how u been?
Junior: Fine...how have you been?
LP: Planning to move to India...with recession, things are tough.
Junior: ok, why don't you try coming here...for a job...life is quite good.
LP: Well, I will have to check up with Hubby, I have no idea if he wants to come to that continent.
Junior: Why ask him? You are still the same...you cannot make your own decisions. You should just tell him that you want to go....that's it...
LP: I was too shook up and angry to respond.
After taking a couple of deep breaths I responded
LP: A happy and healthy marriage does not work like this...you won't understand...
He kept on about the same thing...before I could explode, I just logged out making an excuse of a phone call...Next time, he better beware.
I always wonder, is it curiosity or plain stupidity which makes people ask such questions and make such statements?
I have ranted about the same thing in my previous post 'Close to my Heart'. People just forget boundaries and what is considered 'Kosher' when you talk to someone. Some questions just don't invoke anything else but the feeling 'WTF'?
Do let me know of your 'WTF' stories and we can all write a book on it titled 'Chat Etiquettes for Dummies'.